Children should have learned basic kindness early in life….????

Children should have learned basic kindness early in life….????

27745Happy Monday! So, last week I was cleared to wear a simple ankle brace.  Hooray! This weekend was absolutely beautiful outside and so summer like.  My family and I spent a lot of time outside!

My oldest son had a sleepover at my parents on Saturday night.  Those make for great memories! I love that my boys are very close to both sides of the family.  Keeps the grandparents very active in the lives of their grandchildren as well.  My oldest son draws pictures and makes gifts for them when he goes to visit.  Little kind gestures go a long way to make people happy.  Which is a very important reminder for today’s society.

I encourage my boys to make people smile instead of cry.  Compliment rather than name call.  Be truthful rather than lie! Greet people and say goodbye when coming or going.  These small things make a big difference today.  Everyone is too busy to acknowledge anyone or even repeatedly teach their child these small gestures.  It takes a village to raise a well rounded child! First it starts at home! Then it can be reinforced through caretakers, teachers and community.

Last week i attended open house! I received so many nice compliments about my son.  I can not take full credit for him being the way he is.  I had a lot of help from my husband, my parents, in-laws, aunts, uncles, cousins, friends and community.  I was told out of 22 kids….he was 1 out of 2….that actually said thank you when something was handed to him.  Something that should be very natural is because we aren’t taking time to reinforce kindness.  Kindness should be a priority!

Now,  lets flash forward to this morning.  My son was outside waiting for the bus.  An older lady walks by without even turning her head….not one word.  She just looked forward and couldnt be bothered.  My son and I both looked at eachother.  Goodmorning is very simple but I guesss saying nothing is even simpler.

My point is that if you aren’t teaching your child at a young age about kindness then it won’t come natural.  Please and thank you should be like putting on a seatbelt when you get in a car.  Without it….you should feel like something is missing.

I’m so worried about our future! I want these children to be able to communicate.  Not through text but verbal communication.  They need to have natural grace and be able to look a person in the eye when holding a conversation.  Teaching this as early as birth is what it takes.  My 2yr old says please and thank you and his words are very minimal.  It starts young! Take a step back from your busy life and work on these traits before it’s too late and becomes unnatural.

Let’s see our children grow and succeed! We need to focus more on teaching to respect and be kind.  The rest will all come easily with a well built foundation!

Until next Time,

Jen

 

 

 

Working Mom Brain

Working Mom Brain

15362550228685199534866564611483Hi! It’s been a hectic last couple of days around my home! With school starting, new daycare kids, pto meetings, karate, planning my work days to keep my kids learning and engaged all day and also buying school clothes and last minute supplies.  Craziness!! Working moms have a busy life! I’m sure most would say the same!

My son went back to school yesterday and came home loving his teacher and his classmates.  I get to check off my list…stop worrying about his school year.  I had two new kids start yesterday and they both left very happy.  Although, one came in this morning and cried.  Dreaded crying of a new kid! Always makes me sad and makes me question….could I do anything to make my place better.  I am a very structured daycare.  I like to follow a schedule and I teach a lot of life lessons….manners and etiquette.  Sometimes I wish I could be a fly on the wall and view other daycares.  Are they very free play based with little structure?

My three year olds are able to spell their name out loud and are working on writing and recognizing it daily.  I am teaching them sight words along with basic alphabet, shapes, colors and numbers.  My kids get work sheets and coloring pages.  They also get projects like gluing cheerios to letters of their name.  My 2 year old participate in these activities and a lot of them catch on super fast!  Months of the year, days of the week and alphabet are picked up quick with singing.

Dont get me wrong….its not all about worksheet and pasting.  We have a lot of free time to play inside and outside.  These kids learn a lot through playing and following directions to clean up.  Sometimes that can be pretty brutal to watch.  Kids hate clean up time!

I am always trying to find better ways to get these kids learning without it feeling like work.  My goals are set high….I know it!  I want these little ladies/gentlemen to go to pre kindergarten and know the work and make as many friends as they can.  I want them to be able to communicate and show this world that the next generation is great and amazing! Confidence! Do I ask a lot….probably! I dont think I’m doing my job if I don’t push these kids to full potential.  Manners and etiquette are definitely the basis to my teaching style!

I’m proud of my son going to first grade and leaving behind his dreaded kindergarten year.  I’m also proud of myself for pushing forward with my business and making changes and always improving.  I am a mom of three boys and I’m an entrepreneur! Crazy!

Until next time,

Jen

 

Motherhood At Its Best!

Motherhood At Its Best!

15358269116456397660408727639546Happy Labor Day Weekend! Motherhood is made up of so many highs and lows and add multiple children to the mix and it can be rather interesting.  For the past three days my baby boy has been teething like crazy as his front teeth start erupting from the gumline.   He has been extremely cranky along with a constant flooding of drool while chewing on anything that he can get his hands on.  I feel so bad for the little guy! He is normally a happy giggling little fellow who sleeps so well.  These past three nights….he’s been waking everyone up several times a night.

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When I say he’ waking everyone up….he did indeed! My two year old is definitely not getting the required sleep he should be receiving!  Can I say hot mess!  He woke up this morning crying…whining and throwing a fit over any little thing.  He is so overly tired that he wont go down for naps easily as well.

My oldest son is showing signs of lack of15358274219342373153632203166606 listening to which I will blame on lack of sleep as well!  Ironically,  I pulled a baby tooth of his yesterday that was looking like a snaggle tooth since an adult tooth was growing in behind it.  Everytime I pull one of his teeth…he laughs and cries at the same time!  Lol. Sometimes I wonder how I got the job of pulling loose teeth?!  Just putting in perspective I have two more boys to go… Oh boy!!

1535828088691314049454565080471Motherhood is such a mixture of jobs.  We are nurses, chefs, maids, dentist, law enforcement,  laundry person, personal driver, wardrobe coordinator, personal assistant as well as working women.  I’m sure I left out many more titles! I told my husband it’s about time for another date night.  Ladies/moms it is so important to still make time for you!  Getting wrapped up with kids needs all day and all night can be stressful as well as exhausting.  Us moms are working crazy hours if you include mom job! Give yourself a break and at the very least plan a once a month night out! You deserve it!  It will benefit by resetting your brain and allow you to let things go a little easier.

Until next time!

Jen

Setting Goals For the New School Year!

Setting Goals For the New School Year!

15354801842636356796706928386213Good afternoon!  Its been an interesting day! My first day back at working…running my own family day care! I just got everyone down for naptime/quiet time.  I’m pretty exhausted and my body hurts just trying to get back into the swing of reality!

Next week is going to be full swing and full load of kids.  I’m excited to start off a brand new school year!  I’ve set up a curriculum for my little ones and I am putting my best foot forward and using all the techniques I read up on.  September will be the theme ” all about me”.  My kids will be learning all the letters of their first name and I’m going to introduce a few sight word/popcorn words.  I was so impressed on how fast they picked up on colors, months, days of the week, and seasons last year!  Every day is a new experience working in a daycare and I tend to try different approaches to learning….some stick and some get the boot.

Summer leaving  so soon is a little bitter sweet!  Im certainly going to miss my oldest son going off to first grade.  He isn’t looking forward to the new school year because he had such a rough class last year.  Im praying things go so much smoother this year and he makes friends easily.  He opens up so easily and loves to talk and talk and talk! He is also very involved in karate and lacrosse. He was a first place winner in his grade level science fair and did well in all areas of coursework.   He does a great job!  Now….he needs to find friends in his class for his sanity and mine. Lol

My two younger kids are very happy at home with their daycare friends.  They are still learning how to share, use words and my youngest son to walk.  They have it super good!

My goals this new school year is to heal up fast, keep eating healthy, make new friends myself and lose weight! I’ve been putting myself on the back burner for the last couple years…. getting married, having babies and all of lifes memorable moments and miracles.  This is the time for me to get healthy…mentally and physically!  I have a clear mind for the new school year!

What are your goal(s)?

Thanks,

Jen

We all have a little Bad Mom in us!

We all have a little Bad Mom in us!

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Hi all!  I dont know if I told you but I love to watch movies! Horror movies are my favorite but I also love comedy.  Every mom needs a way to wind down after a long hectic day with the kids. Some moms exercise, some go out often with their girlfriends, some read books, some drink wine but considering I can’t do to much these days with a healing broken ankle….I watch movies.

I would be lying to you if I told you my three boys are angels all the time.   Having a 6 year old, 2 year old and a 7 month old can bring on days that really test patience and understanding that only a mom would understand.  My 6 year old loves to lay on the floor while my 2 year old barrels in screaming at the top of his lungs jumping on top of his big brother and hitting him with whatever object he has in his hands.  Now picture that….but add the youngest one screaming at the top of his lungs with a big smile. Other times, i walk into a room and I get brushed with some sort of flying object (toy) that my 2 year old launches accross the room just missing any glass object around.  I think my husband and I have come to terms with repeating “stop”, “don’t do that!”, “someone is going to get hurt!”, “do that outside”, “stop screaming!” And many others.  Thank goodness that having children brings on memory loss for us moms.  One minute we can be yelling at our kids and next minute we can cuddle and kiss and forget all the horrible moments we had in a day.  I wish our work days could be that way!

I mentioned that I love watching movies earlier and I love to relate my life to movies I watch.  Of course…horror movies dont usually meet that criteria except on days that the kids are reaching extreme limits.  Only joking! I always compare my family to a combination of cheaper by the dozen and bad moms.  We are organized chaos with a touch of mom humor.  “What works for one child doesn’t work for the next!”  I have three boys and all of them have totally different personalities.  Learning to be a mom is one thing but learning how to deal with each individual needs are a different ball game.  Moms are truly superheroes without capes!  I have laughed with my boys, cried with my boys and been angry with my boys.  Emotions that will never go away! They may drive me crazy but I love them to death.

Movies are my outlet to decompress and turn a hectic day into a day that can be looked back on and laughed at.  Memories are the best part of having a family.  It doesn’t matter if it’s a good memory or a bad memory as long as we have family! ❤❤❤

Until Next Time,

Jen

 

 

Manners and Children are like Oil and Water!

Manners and Children are like Oil and Water!

My son had a friend sleep over the other night and I was so impressed by how polite this little boy was.  When his mother came to pick him up….I complimented her and her husbands parenting skills.  I haven’t seen a kid speak so natural in a long time.  I myself am constantly reminding my boys to say please and thank you.  Repetition! Repetition! Repetition!

This brings me to an article that I read about someone interviewing parents and asking one simple question.

“Who is the most important part of your family?”

Todays parents all said the kids!  What’s interesting to me is the older generations all said the parents.  This is the difference between todays children and we as children.  Entitlement should be respected and earned.  If we put our children at the top of the family then they never need to earn it and feel entitled.  Boundaries are a great thing!  They are set in place to protect your child and teach them respect.  Children need a parent to look up to as a role model and not a friend to be equal or lesser.  I can’t believe how many times I’ve witnessed a child talk down to a parent.  I dont blame the child….children will push boundaries whenever possible!  We as parents set those boundaries.

We as parents need to teach our children manners and etiquette.  This isn’t something your child will pick up on their own.  Some basic manners that I reinforce are simple but need to be repeated everyday.  I don’t assume because I said it once that it’s taught! Repetition, Repetition, Repetition!

1) say hello when you enter a room and look at the person you are greeting

2) hold the door for anyone behind you

3) knock before entering

4) ask before taking someone else’s things

5) dont pick your nose or wipe your snot in front of anyone

6) say thank you when someone compliments you or gives you something

7) dont make fun of anyone

8) no negative comments…only compliments

9) when someone is speaking to you…look at them and speak clearly

10) if someone needs help….help them! (If this is a stranger..make sure it’s ok with mom or dad)

These are ten simple manners that most children don’t willingly do!  Todays children are our future.  They are our product.  Lets not set them up for failure! They need to earn their way to the top.  We as parents need to prioritize our importance! We provide shelter, food, clothing, toys, education, and love to our children. Just think! If we weren’t here…..our children wouldn’t exist! So…Moms!  Appreciate yourself!! Treat yourself and allow your children to respect you.

Until next time,

Jen

 

 

Kids having Chores Make for Successful Working Adults

Kids having Chores Make for Successful Working Adults

img_458284WARNING: if your child is 3 years of age or older, and they are not doing chores regularly, you are not helping them internalize key character traits such as accountability, team-oriented attitude, and humility. These are not just traits we would like them to have, these are traits they MUST have if you want them to survive in a future job market where children from other cultures are brought up in families where they don’t call helping the family a chore, in fact they don’t call it anything. It is just understood that this is part of being part of The Family.

Written by Dr Brunner

https://www.doctorbrunner.com/tired-of-reminding-your-kids-to-do-chores-10-steps-to-a-chore-system-that-runs-itself-and-teaches-your-kids-inner-discipline/

This morning, I hobbled to my chair with a nice hot cup of coffee and looked around at my toy filled cluttered living room.  I’m sure every mom reading this knows exactly what our kids can do in a matter of minutes.  Tornado!

I of course shook my head because I knew my kitchen was a disaster as well from all the baking and ice cream cake making from the day before.  The kitchen and the living room were not cleaning themselves.  So, I recruited my 6 year old to clean up the living room and vacuum all the rooms in our home while I cleaned all the dishes and cleaned all the kitchen countertops.  Just think, I was able to have a clean home in half the time it would have been done….if I just did it myself!  I also taught my son responsibility and not to feel entitled.

So, please read the article and make a chore chart for your kid(s)! It not only helps you as a family but helps your child learn so much!!

Until next time,

Jen

 

Rainy Day Fun With Your Kids

Rainy Day Fun With Your Kids

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Morning Moms! It’s a rainy dark and dreary morning here on the east end of long island.  I’m drinking a nice hot cup of coffee and feeling all cozy in my chair.  I was reading many posts on FB…. moms asking for recommendations on “what to do” with their young children on this rainy day.

I have to say I highly reccomend the library.  Libraries have a great kid room to play and have fun as well as pick books out to take home and read.  I signed my boys up for summer reading and they both reached their goals to receive prizes and an invitation to the summer reading party.  The library had a balloon guy, circus guy, music fun and a live animal show.  They also have many craft making events, baking and ice cream making.  My two boys are currently signed up for storytime and yoga in their age appropriate groups.  Just think….this is all free!  Why pass up something fun and free?

The library is a great place for your children and yourself to meet new friends and enjoy the environment.  Leave your everyday stress at the door and pick a great novel and let your child play or join a fun group.  Libraries are so under utilized and are such an accet to your childs literacy and communication skills.  So, on that next rainy day when you can’t decide what to do….get up and support your local library!  They will love it!!

Until Next Time,

Jen

 

Reminder: Your Child is in the Backseat!

Reminder: Your Child is in the Backseat!

15336655642544101109267889485253Morning! To all my moms out there!  Recently there has been much debate about the new vehicles having a back seat baby reminder safety feature. I read a Facebook post and majority of mothers were very insulted by the fact that society has come to this point.  Other moms were very up front and voiced that it could save lives and thats all that matters.  A few individuals even told their story about leaving their child in a carseat by the door and driving down the road and quickly turning a round to pick up their baby.  They commented they had mom brain….too hectic!

As a mom, life can be very hectic and crazy and as we add more kids to our pack it gets even crazier! I personally cringe everytime I hear a horror story of a child boiling to death in a car or dying from hypothermia.  I hurt for the family and for the parent but I also always ask the same question! Come on i’m human… “how does this happen?”  My question isnt to be judgemental but to understand.  From articles I’ve read a lot of them said the other parent usually is the main care giver during that time, parents were overtired or there was a lot going on that day.  Mom brain might actually be a thing! We are human and we make mistakes and in this case it was an accident that those parents/ caregivers will have to endure for the rest of their life.  I couldn’t imagine and never want to!

Now, I had to read up on this safety feature because I didnt really know what it’s about.  According to the car companies,  child deaths have been on the rise since 1998.  This car feature was built in to remind parents that there is something in the backseat.  The company also recommended this reminder for a laptop, briefcase, or any items that you may forget back there.  They also assure the buyer that you can disable this feature.  So moms that feel insulted….you can turn it off!

Now, this feature is all fine and good but it brings another question to my mind.  What if this feature has a glitch and another child dies because the parent depended on this reminder? Will that person sue the company and place all blame on the company?  This brings me back to the Facebook post I was talking about in the beginning.  The original writer to that post was not talking about the horrible deaths of the children but speaking of us as parents/ society.  We as parents have responsibilities to our children and their safety. Its seems very obvious that we need to slow down in our lives and think things through step by step rather then taking short cuts.  Taking short cuts unfortunately can lead to fatal mistakes!  Every parent on that page had something in common….we love children and dont want to see them hurt!  The only difference was that one side wants parent responsibility and the others like the reminder but also believed it could potentially save a life. Ultimately we all want to fix the problem!

Before I started this blog…i was more concerned about society then with this feature.  Parent responsibilities and keeping a vulnerable child safe is always my priority.  I have three kids! I walk out of my home with three and I come back with three.  Even if that means leaving a purse or a cell phone elsewhere!  As I stated before…I fully understand accidents happen and I feel for the children and parent/ caregiver that have been a statistic.  After reading up….I believe that people who lead a hectic life or admit to mom brain should most definitely utalize the feature because they are right as well! If that feature saves even one life it is well worth it!

I try to evaluate the situation with some type of logical explanation.  I would be very interested in hearing your thoughts…..so please comment below!

Until Tomorrow,

Jen

 

https://amp.cnn.com/money/2016/06/13/autos/gmc-child-back-seat-reminder/index.html

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ever Feel Guilty Asking Your Child to do Chores?

Ever Feel Guilty Asking Your Child to do Chores?

 

 

I’m sitting in my recliner with my foot up drinking a cup of coffee and brainstorming.  Over the past 3 weeks I have been quarantined to my chair directed by my dr. because I have a broken ankle and broken bone in my foot.  I’m suppose to be non weight bearing for at least 6 weeks.  Let me remind you that I have a 6 month old, 2 year old and a 6 year old.  So these highly recommended directions are a bit not possible at this time in my life. Lol .  My two little guys are pretty helpless and need more attention then they can give.  So, that leaves my 6yr old to help me as much as possible.  Do I feel guilty? Should I feel guily? No, I don’t and these are my reasons why!

Every morning my son Noah wakes up.  I ask everyday for him to clean up his room: make bed, open curtains and turn off night light, put clothes in hamper and all stuffed animals on bed. On his list he also needs to bring trash cans up from the driveway.  Clean up after eating (dish scraped and put in sink) and clean table after we are all done eating.  Clean folded clothes need to be put in drawers (his own clothes).  Toys need to be picked up and put where they belong.  I’m sure I ask a few more things but probably not on a daily basis.  Sometimes he does chores without any fuss and other days it like pulling teeth and nails!

Moms, our kids have it so good! Some moms would probably read my list and say “my kid would never do that list” or “it isn’t worth the fight” or best “my kid is incapable of doing these things”.  Other great reasons are: no time /too busy and kids should be kids!

Let’s take a moment to take a look back to the pioneer days….1800’s.  The young boys and girls were expected to be young adults and if these chores were not met….this meant life or death!  Their chores included: collecting firewood, feeding livestock, cleaning pens, hunting, collecting buffalo chips, churning butter, milking cows, collecting eggs, planting and harvesting crops, fetching water, cooking, cleaning and quilting.  I’m sure the list is even longer! Just think….the weather or season didn’t matter.  These children were very capable of learning these trades and didn’t think any different because this was  the way of life.

Moms out there… start writing a list! Make your life a little easier and allow your kids to clean up or help out.  Sometimes it might not be the way you would have done it but you can teach them the way you like it.  Being kind to yourself will also allow your child to blossom into a young lady or gentleman.

My son always had chores that were age appropriate. My temporary disability forced me to release my reigns.  I allowed myself to depend on my husband and my son to help out more! I’ve learned my 6yr old is very capable and hopefully one day will pass his knowledge on to his younger siblings.  Three little helpers is much better then one tired mom.  Moms, I hope this blog allows you to lighten your load….we all deserve it!

Until tomorrow….

Jen

 

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