9/11 Self Reflection

9/11 Self Reflection

15366889912937561277221385617980Hi! School is back in action and my business is back up and running! I have to say by the end of last week….my body was sore from head to toe.  No joke! I had an xray not to long ago and my foot was healed but my ankle needed a little more time.  So…..fingers crossed! This Thursday,  I go for another xray and hopefully I will be put in a lighter ankle brace.  Its been a long haul in the healing process.  I want to be healed and have full movement in my ankle.   It is so stiff out of the aircast and trying to move it around.

On a lighter note…..yesterday afternoon my niece came over and babysat my three boys! My husband and I were able to go and see The Nun in the movie theater.  So much fun! We went to a 430pm movie and were back home having supper by 6:30pm.  I have to say….it was great! It’s so nice to go out and break up the monogamy.  We have to do that more often.

Last night I had to figure out a lesson plan for my kids and had to incorporate 9/11 day of remembrance.  We will be making flags this afternoon! I had to talk a little bit about what had happened that day with my older kids.  We all had a sad moment! It brought back such vivid memories for me.  I lived in Virginia at that time and the chaos that went on there with the attack on the Pentagon and the fighter jets that flew over us.  I didnt know if we were being attacked or attacking.  Very scary! The rest of my family lived on long island and I had no idea what was going on there….since the phone lines were busy and no calls would go through!  Luckily for my family everyone was fine but for those who lost their life….so tough for the ones they left behind.  It’s a sad day.

I’m so thankful for my family and for the country we live in! I appreciate the things I have and look forward to great things that were sacrificed for me.  I have so many freedoms as a woman, wife, mom and business woman.  Life couldnt be better! We need to appreciate the big things and the small stuff!

 

Until next time,

Jen

 

Never Wrong to Live, Laugh and Love!

Never Wrong to Live, Laugh and Love!

1535564494266363625318994756409Morning all! Last week we received a phone call that a close family member had passed away.  He had been battling a disease for years and he finally gave into it after years of being uncomfortable and in pain.  They were prepared but didn’t realize how soon this all would happen.  Loved ones never want to let go!

This morning my husband and I went to a very small memorial service at the gravesite to pay our respects to a well respected business man, father, grandfather and husband.  He was very well liked and respected in our community.  He did very well for himself during his lifetime here….but you would never know because he was very down to earth and easily approachable.  He wasn’t a materialistic person by far!  His didn’t want a big wake or a huge funeral.  His wishes were for immediate family to hold a small memorial service and to think about him but dont dwell on his death.  He is now at peace.

For the ones left behind, the pain seems to run deeper.  A mourning widow, an only son and his wife and two grandsons that lived next door to them since as long as they can remember.  Leaving this world seems like the easy part…it’s the people you leave behind that have it rough.  Time will heal the hurt but he will always be remembered by all!

I walked away with such a sadness for the living for they will go home and look at old memories and re tell stories of old times but this time with one less person in the room.  One day those stories will be shared with great grandchildren and great great grandchildren.  It’s amazing how life cycles!

So, my thought of the day…..cherish every moment because life flies by so fast!  Stop dwelling on the small things that can get fixed or maybe not.  Take lots of pictures! Hug often! Love as much as you can because you never know when your time is up or if it’s the last time you will see a loved one.  Life is too short for any regrets!

 

Talk to you soon,

Jen

Setting Goals For the New School Year!

Setting Goals For the New School Year!

15354801842636356796706928386213Good afternoon!  Its been an interesting day! My first day back at working…running my own family day care! I just got everyone down for naptime/quiet time.  I’m pretty exhausted and my body hurts just trying to get back into the swing of reality!

Next week is going to be full swing and full load of kids.  I’m excited to start off a brand new school year!  I’ve set up a curriculum for my little ones and I am putting my best foot forward and using all the techniques I read up on.  September will be the theme ” all about me”.  My kids will be learning all the letters of their first name and I’m going to introduce a few sight word/popcorn words.  I was so impressed on how fast they picked up on colors, months, days of the week, and seasons last year!  Every day is a new experience working in a daycare and I tend to try different approaches to learning….some stick and some get the boot.

Summer leaving  so soon is a little bitter sweet!  Im certainly going to miss my oldest son going off to first grade.  He isn’t looking forward to the new school year because he had such a rough class last year.  Im praying things go so much smoother this year and he makes friends easily.  He opens up so easily and loves to talk and talk and talk! He is also very involved in karate and lacrosse. He was a first place winner in his grade level science fair and did well in all areas of coursework.   He does a great job!  Now….he needs to find friends in his class for his sanity and mine. Lol

My two younger kids are very happy at home with their daycare friends.  They are still learning how to share, use words and my youngest son to walk.  They have it super good!

My goals this new school year is to heal up fast, keep eating healthy, make new friends myself and lose weight! I’ve been putting myself on the back burner for the last couple years…. getting married, having babies and all of lifes memorable moments and miracles.  This is the time for me to get healthy…mentally and physically!  I have a clear mind for the new school year!

What are your goal(s)?

Thanks,

Jen

The Importance of Free Time for kids!

The Importance of Free Time for kids!

 

 

 

 

Yesterday, we got around to celebrating my son Lucas’ 2nd birthday! His birthday was in July but we left for vacation that weekend and decided to celebrate at a later date when we could get family and friends together.  Around 3pm, many guests started arriving and our home became filled with laughter and voices that start out normal and escalate as everyone tries talking over one another.  The kids ran around giggling with excitement of what to do next.

My husband set up our giant double water slide, grabbed the ladder for our trampoline and opened the doors to our giant play room.  We also have a good sized playground in our backyard! The possibilities were endless for the kids to play.  I sat back and watched the kids enjoying every minute they had with one another.  Some of these kids were cousins and had only met eachother for the second or third time.  They all played so well and the parents all sat and watched with smiles on their faces.

The interactions of the kids interested me enough to think about all the benefits of free play amongst our young community.  When was the last time I saw kids playing in their yards or riding bikes? Even on vacation, my husband and I looked around never saw one kid playing.  This is mind boggling to both of us….why? What has changed so much in our communities? Then I started to question why such a change and started listing reasons: laziness (parent/ child /both), too much tech time, sports, parent(s) working, social skills, parental guidance, too much parental control, parental fear from negative media and/or overscheduling.

I did a little research and found that kids that aren’t allowed free time become very stressed and depressed.  Depression leads to headaches, anxiety, belly aches, poor sleeping habits, and tantrums. They are overwhelmed by homework, chores, sports and family/friend planned events. Everything is planned out and  over controlled in their life! Kids can’t make their own choice(s).  We have taken away our childs right to grow intellectually and physically without even truly meaning to.

Free play is so important on so many levels! Obesity is at its all time high amongst our children today.  They aren’t riding bikes, jumping rope, making forts, playing tag or running around outside.  Free play builds a childs social skills and problem solving.  Allowing them to work out problems without an adult intervening.  Kids build an imagination and a creative side when allowed to play freely.  These are all key to maturing and becoming a competent adult.

We as parents need to cut back on the structure and allow more free time.  We need to let our kids be the leader if we are involved in the roll playing.  Cutting back on buying our kids toys allows them to imagine and improvise.  Sit back and watch our kids socially interact and don’t chime in unless necessary.  Free play is just that…not one ounce of structure behind it.  Let kids be kids!

So, my list of reasons for the decline of play is all… right!  We as parents can start changing this before it’s to late!  Kids can still have structure but we need to allot more time for them to have free time.  Safety is definitely a concern these days but parents may need to walk the block or ride a bike while your child rides their bike. Stay outside and work on the yard when your child plays.  Be around but don’t dictate the next step. Let your kids be kids!

Lucas’ party had a pinata, gift opening and cake time! Plenty of sugar to go around. Lol. The kids had their much needed quality time while the adults had a great time as well.  The good time sadly came to an end around 9pm.  All of our guests left with smiles and memories to cherish for years.

Sources:

https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2011/10/all-work-and-no-play-why-your-kids-are-more-anxious-depressed/246422/

https://www.verywellfamily.com/why-free-time-is-important-for-kids-3288593

Our Family Vacation

Our Family Vacation

 

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In March, I planned a family cabin camping trip to Blairstown, NJ.  I surfed the web for a vacation spot that wouldn’t be any longer than a 3 hour drive considering my young boys were all cooped up in an overly packed Ford Explorer and  it was the end of July.  My husband was just as excited as the boys because we were going to the location where the original Friday The 13th took place.  My oldest son couldn’t wait for the day we went to the Land of Make Believe.  I couldnt wait to just get away! Lol. We get to our beautiful campground and the people were so wonderful at check-in.  We hurry up to our cabin and walk up to the door but our card wouldn’t open the door.  So, Scott and the boys walk down and start to get into the car.  I walk down two steps and the last one must of been a little high because I rolled my ankle so hard and fell to the ground. Ugh! It hurts so bad I almost passed out.  My husband being the kind hearted person he is…..ran over and helped me up slowly.  I hobbled to the car and we drove up to the office to retrieve a key that we should have received initially.  The staff was apologetic once again.  All of the campers were so pleasant and one nice lady gave me an ace bandage to wrap around my ankle.  Dispite the pain I endured I kept going because my family memories were all I could think about.  My boys went to the pool, road bikes, walked the campground, played on the playground, ate s’mores and walked around Blairstown.  My husband kept right up with them as I hobbled along trying to keep up.  The day we went to The Land of Make Believe I barely made it through the gate before I broke down in tears because my ankle and foot hurt so bad.  I hobbled over to a picnic table and sat with my youngest son while I encouraged the rest to go have fun and take pictures.  I think an angel was looking over me because 3 rides later the sky opened up into turential downpours.  We ate lunch under a covered picnic area watching the sheets of rain and flooding.  The rain finally stopped and the groundskeeper let us know we would get a rain check.  We left and drove back to our beautiful campground with the expectations of taking another trip back to The Land of Make Believe.  We packed up the next morning and drove back to the island with plans of going back to the cabin on the campground.  My boys, husband and myself were a little sad to leave such a peaceful community but know we will return one day.  We got back to town and I asked my husband kindly if he could drop me off at a local walk- in drs office. He dropped me off and took the boys home to start un-packing while I got checked by a Dr..  Sure enough I did have two broken bones from that fall.  I broke my ankle and a bone in my foot.  I dont regret any part of my trip and loved every moment of it! I am a Supermom! I sit here writing this blog with a aircast on my foot.  Moral of the story…..go on vacations.  You dont have to go far or spend tons.  It’s great for your mind, body, and soul!!