Kids having Chores Make for Successful Working Adults

Kids having Chores Make for Successful Working Adults

img_458284WARNING: if your child is 3 years of age or older, and they are not doing chores regularly, you are not helping them internalize key character traits such as accountability, team-oriented attitude, and humility. These are not just traits we would like them to have, these are traits they MUST have if you want them to survive in a future job market where children from other cultures are brought up in families where they don’t call helping the family a chore, in fact they don’t call it anything. It is just understood that this is part of being part of The Family.

Written by Dr Brunner

https://www.doctorbrunner.com/tired-of-reminding-your-kids-to-do-chores-10-steps-to-a-chore-system-that-runs-itself-and-teaches-your-kids-inner-discipline/

This morning, I hobbled to my chair with a nice hot cup of coffee and looked around at my toy filled cluttered living room.  I’m sure every mom reading this knows exactly what our kids can do in a matter of minutes.  Tornado!

I of course shook my head because I knew my kitchen was a disaster as well from all the baking and ice cream cake making from the day before.  The kitchen and the living room were not cleaning themselves.  So, I recruited my 6 year old to clean up the living room and vacuum all the rooms in our home while I cleaned all the dishes and cleaned all the kitchen countertops.  Just think, I was able to have a clean home in half the time it would have been done….if I just did it myself!  I also taught my son responsibility and not to feel entitled.

So, please read the article and make a chore chart for your kid(s)! It not only helps you as a family but helps your child learn so much!!

Until next time,

Jen

 

An Easy Ice cream Cake Kids Love!

An Easy Ice cream Cake Kids Love!

cake_PNG13121Today’s my father’s 70th birthday!  Crazy how time flies!! So, my family asked me to provide the cake for tonight’s family celebration!  I want to share with you an easy ice cream cake that you can make and add anything you want to it to make it delicious!

24 ice cream sandwiches

2 tubs of cool whip

Chocalate syrup

Reese’s pieces, peanut butter cups, crushed nuts, any type of topping

Place one layer of ice cream sandwiches, then place one tub of cool whip spread on top of layer, chocolate syrup and some toppings, then add second layer of ice cream sandwiches and 2nd tub of cool whip spread with all the toppings.  Cover the cake and freeze it!

This time I even added a quart of moose tracks from target to the middle of the cake! Delicious!!

Try it out! It’s a crowd pleaser!!

Until next time

Jen

 

Rainy Day Fun With Your Kids

Rainy Day Fun With Your Kids

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Morning Moms! It’s a rainy dark and dreary morning here on the east end of long island.  I’m drinking a nice hot cup of coffee and feeling all cozy in my chair.  I was reading many posts on FB…. moms asking for recommendations on “what to do” with their young children on this rainy day.

I have to say I highly reccomend the library.  Libraries have a great kid room to play and have fun as well as pick books out to take home and read.  I signed my boys up for summer reading and they both reached their goals to receive prizes and an invitation to the summer reading party.  The library had a balloon guy, circus guy, music fun and a live animal show.  They also have many craft making events, baking and ice cream making.  My two boys are currently signed up for storytime and yoga in their age appropriate groups.  Just think….this is all free!  Why pass up something fun and free?

The library is a great place for your children and yourself to meet new friends and enjoy the environment.  Leave your everyday stress at the door and pick a great novel and let your child play or join a fun group.  Libraries are so under utilized and are such an accet to your childs literacy and communication skills.  So, on that next rainy day when you can’t decide what to do….get up and support your local library!  They will love it!!

Until Next Time,

Jen

 

Is Your Child a Picky Eater?

Is Your Child a Picky Eater?

15337653168902425302957021980537Hi! Everyone knows I had an accident and I have to remain non weight bearing as much as possible.  When I heard this, my brain went  into instant diet mode.  When I went on my trip I was going to come back and start a diet and exercise routine.  Unfortunately, that has been delayed until all is healed.  All I could invision was myself expanding in my chair if I did not eat well. My 600lb life in the making. Lol I started myself and my family on the clean food crush diet.  This diet doesn’t recognize processed foods but offers a well rounded diet plan.  I have to say the recipes are spectacular! My kids have always been great eaters but sometimes my oldest son has to be encouraged to eat his veggies.  I am very blessed in the topic of dinner and my kids eating. I have seen many kids that are extremely picky eaters only living off of chicken nuggets, hot dogs, mac and cheese and pizza.  The parents have given up and dont even bother offering new foods because their child refused to eat anything else.  Their child will not taste test and pushes the plate away in discussed.

I read an article that acknowledges that moderate to severe picky eaters can be an indicator for a medical issue that may need evaluation.  Picky eating along with anxiety issues can be an issue that coincides with deppression. Moms, please dont dismiss this for just going through a phase. Some may complain of textures or complaining of having a bad experience the first time they tried a particular food. This might be true but if the child shows anxiety and refuses to retry, then there might be a bigger problem that needs to be addressed.  This does not pertain to the child who won’t eat their vegetables once in a while or a child who got sick and vomited up a certain food.  Please, do not be that parent that does not want to acknowledge an issue….be proactive!

I thought this article was very interesting and informative. I hear so many parents complain about their childs eating habits. Childhood depression has been on a rapid incline and it’s very scary! We as parents have to be aware of any indicators that could effect our childrens future!

The link to the article is listed below…read it and let me know what you think!

Until Tomorrow,

Jen

 

https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2015/08/150803083343.htm

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Reminder: Your Child is in the Backseat!

Reminder: Your Child is in the Backseat!

15336655642544101109267889485253Morning! To all my moms out there!  Recently there has been much debate about the new vehicles having a back seat baby reminder safety feature. I read a Facebook post and majority of mothers were very insulted by the fact that society has come to this point.  Other moms were very up front and voiced that it could save lives and thats all that matters.  A few individuals even told their story about leaving their child in a carseat by the door and driving down the road and quickly turning a round to pick up their baby.  They commented they had mom brain….too hectic!

As a mom, life can be very hectic and crazy and as we add more kids to our pack it gets even crazier! I personally cringe everytime I hear a horror story of a child boiling to death in a car or dying from hypothermia.  I hurt for the family and for the parent but I also always ask the same question! Come on i’m human… “how does this happen?”  My question isnt to be judgemental but to understand.  From articles I’ve read a lot of them said the other parent usually is the main care giver during that time, parents were overtired or there was a lot going on that day.  Mom brain might actually be a thing! We are human and we make mistakes and in this case it was an accident that those parents/ caregivers will have to endure for the rest of their life.  I couldn’t imagine and never want to!

Now, I had to read up on this safety feature because I didnt really know what it’s about.  According to the car companies,  child deaths have been on the rise since 1998.  This car feature was built in to remind parents that there is something in the backseat.  The company also recommended this reminder for a laptop, briefcase, or any items that you may forget back there.  They also assure the buyer that you can disable this feature.  So moms that feel insulted….you can turn it off!

Now, this feature is all fine and good but it brings another question to my mind.  What if this feature has a glitch and another child dies because the parent depended on this reminder? Will that person sue the company and place all blame on the company?  This brings me back to the Facebook post I was talking about in the beginning.  The original writer to that post was not talking about the horrible deaths of the children but speaking of us as parents/ society.  We as parents have responsibilities to our children and their safety. Its seems very obvious that we need to slow down in our lives and think things through step by step rather then taking short cuts.  Taking short cuts unfortunately can lead to fatal mistakes!  Every parent on that page had something in common….we love children and dont want to see them hurt!  The only difference was that one side wants parent responsibility and the others like the reminder but also believed it could potentially save a life. Ultimately we all want to fix the problem!

Before I started this blog…i was more concerned about society then with this feature.  Parent responsibilities and keeping a vulnerable child safe is always my priority.  I have three kids! I walk out of my home with three and I come back with three.  Even if that means leaving a purse or a cell phone elsewhere!  As I stated before…I fully understand accidents happen and I feel for the children and parent/ caregiver that have been a statistic.  After reading up….I believe that people who lead a hectic life or admit to mom brain should most definitely utalize the feature because they are right as well! If that feature saves even one life it is well worth it!

I try to evaluate the situation with some type of logical explanation.  I would be very interested in hearing your thoughts…..so please comment below!

Until Tomorrow,

Jen

 

https://amp.cnn.com/money/2016/06/13/autos/gmc-child-back-seat-reminder/index.html

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ever Feel Guilty Asking Your Child to do Chores?

Ever Feel Guilty Asking Your Child to do Chores?

 

 

I’m sitting in my recliner with my foot up drinking a cup of coffee and brainstorming.  Over the past 3 weeks I have been quarantined to my chair directed by my dr. because I have a broken ankle and broken bone in my foot.  I’m suppose to be non weight bearing for at least 6 weeks.  Let me remind you that I have a 6 month old, 2 year old and a 6 year old.  So these highly recommended directions are a bit not possible at this time in my life. Lol .  My two little guys are pretty helpless and need more attention then they can give.  So, that leaves my 6yr old to help me as much as possible.  Do I feel guilty? Should I feel guily? No, I don’t and these are my reasons why!

Every morning my son Noah wakes up.  I ask everyday for him to clean up his room: make bed, open curtains and turn off night light, put clothes in hamper and all stuffed animals on bed. On his list he also needs to bring trash cans up from the driveway.  Clean up after eating (dish scraped and put in sink) and clean table after we are all done eating.  Clean folded clothes need to be put in drawers (his own clothes).  Toys need to be picked up and put where they belong.  I’m sure I ask a few more things but probably not on a daily basis.  Sometimes he does chores without any fuss and other days it like pulling teeth and nails!

Moms, our kids have it so good! Some moms would probably read my list and say “my kid would never do that list” or “it isn’t worth the fight” or best “my kid is incapable of doing these things”.  Other great reasons are: no time /too busy and kids should be kids!

Let’s take a moment to take a look back to the pioneer days….1800’s.  The young boys and girls were expected to be young adults and if these chores were not met….this meant life or death!  Their chores included: collecting firewood, feeding livestock, cleaning pens, hunting, collecting buffalo chips, churning butter, milking cows, collecting eggs, planting and harvesting crops, fetching water, cooking, cleaning and quilting.  I’m sure the list is even longer! Just think….the weather or season didn’t matter.  These children were very capable of learning these trades and didn’t think any different because this was  the way of life.

Moms out there… start writing a list! Make your life a little easier and allow your kids to clean up or help out.  Sometimes it might not be the way you would have done it but you can teach them the way you like it.  Being kind to yourself will also allow your child to blossom into a young lady or gentleman.

My son always had chores that were age appropriate. My temporary disability forced me to release my reigns.  I allowed myself to depend on my husband and my son to help out more! I’ve learned my 6yr old is very capable and hopefully one day will pass his knowledge on to his younger siblings.  Three little helpers is much better then one tired mom.  Moms, I hope this blog allows you to lighten your load….we all deserve it!

Until tomorrow….

Jen

 

https://www.reference.com/history/were-chores-pioneer-children-334c3bbb67212988#

 

 

 

 

The Importance of Free Time for kids!

The Importance of Free Time for kids!

 

 

 

 

Yesterday, we got around to celebrating my son Lucas’ 2nd birthday! His birthday was in July but we left for vacation that weekend and decided to celebrate at a later date when we could get family and friends together.  Around 3pm, many guests started arriving and our home became filled with laughter and voices that start out normal and escalate as everyone tries talking over one another.  The kids ran around giggling with excitement of what to do next.

My husband set up our giant double water slide, grabbed the ladder for our trampoline and opened the doors to our giant play room.  We also have a good sized playground in our backyard! The possibilities were endless for the kids to play.  I sat back and watched the kids enjoying every minute they had with one another.  Some of these kids were cousins and had only met eachother for the second or third time.  They all played so well and the parents all sat and watched with smiles on their faces.

The interactions of the kids interested me enough to think about all the benefits of free play amongst our young community.  When was the last time I saw kids playing in their yards or riding bikes? Even on vacation, my husband and I looked around never saw one kid playing.  This is mind boggling to both of us….why? What has changed so much in our communities? Then I started to question why such a change and started listing reasons: laziness (parent/ child /both), too much tech time, sports, parent(s) working, social skills, parental guidance, too much parental control, parental fear from negative media and/or overscheduling.

I did a little research and found that kids that aren’t allowed free time become very stressed and depressed.  Depression leads to headaches, anxiety, belly aches, poor sleeping habits, and tantrums. They are overwhelmed by homework, chores, sports and family/friend planned events. Everything is planned out and  over controlled in their life! Kids can’t make their own choice(s).  We have taken away our childs right to grow intellectually and physically without even truly meaning to.

Free play is so important on so many levels! Obesity is at its all time high amongst our children today.  They aren’t riding bikes, jumping rope, making forts, playing tag or running around outside.  Free play builds a childs social skills and problem solving.  Allowing them to work out problems without an adult intervening.  Kids build an imagination and a creative side when allowed to play freely.  These are all key to maturing and becoming a competent adult.

We as parents need to cut back on the structure and allow more free time.  We need to let our kids be the leader if we are involved in the roll playing.  Cutting back on buying our kids toys allows them to imagine and improvise.  Sit back and watch our kids socially interact and don’t chime in unless necessary.  Free play is just that…not one ounce of structure behind it.  Let kids be kids!

So, my list of reasons for the decline of play is all… right!  We as parents can start changing this before it’s to late!  Kids can still have structure but we need to allot more time for them to have free time.  Safety is definitely a concern these days but parents may need to walk the block or ride a bike while your child rides their bike. Stay outside and work on the yard when your child plays.  Be around but don’t dictate the next step. Let your kids be kids!

Lucas’ party had a pinata, gift opening and cake time! Plenty of sugar to go around. Lol. The kids had their much needed quality time while the adults had a great time as well.  The good time sadly came to an end around 9pm.  All of our guests left with smiles and memories to cherish for years.

Sources:

https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2011/10/all-work-and-no-play-why-your-kids-are-more-anxious-depressed/246422/

https://www.verywellfamily.com/why-free-time-is-important-for-kids-3288593

Do You Need a Family Vacation? Here are some good reasons why you should start planning!

Do You Need a Family Vacation? Here are some good reasons why you should start planning!

76373679-vector-illustration-of-cartoon-family-vacationI always loved going on family trips growing up and I still reminisce with family about all the good times we had. Now I have the pleasure of planning trips for my own family every year! I decided to do a little research to find out the benefits of taking vacations and I was surprised to see how many articles were written.  They all pretty much had the same reasoning and some had research to back it up.  I’m going to share with you reasons why you should start planning your next family vacation and not think twice!

Some obvious reasons were: spending quality time with family, lay back and relax, making memories and experience new things.  But did you know that a large percentage of kids feel closer to their parents when they go on vacation? Our lives at home are very hectic and our minds are running in many directions leaving the kids not receiving complete attention from us.  Vacation decreases stress for both parent and child and leads to both being in a great mood.  Less arguing is always better! Kids chimed in and also said that parents are more fun and they saw a different side to them. Both parent and child were able to openly discuss issues they wouldn’t be able to at home. Parents!  Let your hair down and plan that next trip …A.S.A.P! Lol

The crazy tip that I read…..Parents are better off spending money on vacation than spending money on toys! Family vacations are valued by children in the moment and for years after.  A toy is for that moment and a couple weeks after…if that.  Family vacations are beneficial to brain development.  New experiences that are strong and that are combined with social, physical, cognitive and sensory lead to a higher IQ.  These experiences also lead to great memories and better coping methods later in life.  Kids that went on family trips growing up went further in education and became successful adults.  If this doesn’t push you to plan a family vacation…what will?!

Thanks to reading articles from parent circle, parents.com, famifi and stuffed suitcase. I was able to  compile many great reasons to plan family vacations.  It truly is great for the mind, body and soul!

So moms out there….plan that next vacation! It doesn’t have to be expensive and extravagant.  You could plan a trip nearby and still receive the great benefits in this blog! Happy planning on your next adventure😊

 

Our Family Vacation

Our Family Vacation

 

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In March, I planned a family cabin camping trip to Blairstown, NJ.  I surfed the web for a vacation spot that wouldn’t be any longer than a 3 hour drive considering my young boys were all cooped up in an overly packed Ford Explorer and  it was the end of July.  My husband was just as excited as the boys because we were going to the location where the original Friday The 13th took place.  My oldest son couldn’t wait for the day we went to the Land of Make Believe.  I couldnt wait to just get away! Lol. We get to our beautiful campground and the people were so wonderful at check-in.  We hurry up to our cabin and walk up to the door but our card wouldn’t open the door.  So, Scott and the boys walk down and start to get into the car.  I walk down two steps and the last one must of been a little high because I rolled my ankle so hard and fell to the ground. Ugh! It hurts so bad I almost passed out.  My husband being the kind hearted person he is…..ran over and helped me up slowly.  I hobbled to the car and we drove up to the office to retrieve a key that we should have received initially.  The staff was apologetic once again.  All of the campers were so pleasant and one nice lady gave me an ace bandage to wrap around my ankle.  Dispite the pain I endured I kept going because my family memories were all I could think about.  My boys went to the pool, road bikes, walked the campground, played on the playground, ate s’mores and walked around Blairstown.  My husband kept right up with them as I hobbled along trying to keep up.  The day we went to The Land of Make Believe I barely made it through the gate before I broke down in tears because my ankle and foot hurt so bad.  I hobbled over to a picnic table and sat with my youngest son while I encouraged the rest to go have fun and take pictures.  I think an angel was looking over me because 3 rides later the sky opened up into turential downpours.  We ate lunch under a covered picnic area watching the sheets of rain and flooding.  The rain finally stopped and the groundskeeper let us know we would get a rain check.  We left and drove back to our beautiful campground with the expectations of taking another trip back to The Land of Make Believe.  We packed up the next morning and drove back to the island with plans of going back to the cabin on the campground.  My boys, husband and myself were a little sad to leave such a peaceful community but know we will return one day.  We got back to town and I asked my husband kindly if he could drop me off at a local walk- in drs office. He dropped me off and took the boys home to start un-packing while I got checked by a Dr..  Sure enough I did have two broken bones from that fall.  I broke my ankle and a bone in my foot.  I dont regret any part of my trip and loved every moment of it! I am a Supermom! I sit here writing this blog with a aircast on my foot.  Moral of the story…..go on vacations.  You dont have to go far or spend tons.  It’s great for your mind, body, and soul!!